Let’s Not Catch Up — And That’s Okay

We all know the feeling. A message pops up:

“Hey! It’s been ages. Let’s catch up soon!”

And your stomach drops. Not because you hate them. Not because you’re busy (though you probably are). But because… you just don’t want to.

Maybe the connection fizzled. Maybe you’ve evolved. Maybe your social battery is permanently in airplane mode. Whatever the reason, you’re not obligated to re-engage — but you are obligated to be decent.

Here’s how to say “no thanks” with finesse, SINON-style.

🧊 1. The Gentle Fade

“I’ve been laying low lately — hope you’re doing well though!”

This is the social equivalent of ghosting with a bow on top. It’s polite, vague, and leaves no opening for follow-up.

🪞 2. The Honest Boundary

“I’m not in a catch-up mood these days, but I really appreciate you reaching out.”

Direct, but not cold. You’re naming your needs without making it about them. Emotional intelligence: unlocked.

🕊️ 3. The Peaceful Closure

“I think we’re in different chapters now — wishing you all the best in yours.”

For when the relationship has run its course. It’s poetic, respectful, and doesn’t invite debate.

You don’t owe anyone access to your time, energy, or inbox. Declining a catch-up isn’t rude — it’s self-respect. And when done with grace, it can be a quiet act of kindness to both parties.